if you think the solution to systemic oppression is “everybody just be nice” you fundamentally don’t understand the concept of systemic oppression
remember the old “baskets of apples” metaphor for oppression. where the privileged party has a basket with a hundred apples in it, and the oppressed party has, say, ten. now suppose this disparity exists because the privileged party keeps stealing our goddamn apples
of course in this scenario you can of course just lay down an agreement that nobody steals anybody else’s apples because that’s mean. and maybe that’ll work for the most part. but the fact remains that people on the oppressed side were never really in the business of stealing apples anyway, and some people on the privileged side are just going to keep stealing apples regardless because they don’t give a shit.
the agreement to be nice effectively does nothing. the inequality still exists, and the people on the oppressed side are still starving.
now imagine people on the oppressed side decide that fuck it, they’re just going to take their goddamn apples back. screw being nice. and it’s hard work, but every now and again they manage to steal an apple back.
now imagine that every time they steal an apple - an apple they might need to survive, because god knows the puny quantity allotted to them isn’t enough, but maybe just an apple they WANTED because damnit, it’s not fair that they have so few when their neighbors have so many and they’re all ill-gotten anyway - someone on the privileged side yells “can’t we all just get along! you’re hurting your cause!”
that’s how ridiculous you sound when you promote the “equality” of being polite about oppression
Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.